Since I was home alone, I started to try the Tantra Chair on my own. I was sitting at different places, lying down with legs down, legs up and even stretching. I really enjoyed being on that wave shape. The cushion is really dense, it gives an amazing support. It is not possible to press strong enough to go all the way through the foam, even when standing on the chair on one feet (don't try that one home alone !). It feels extremely robust. The leather is great too.
When my partner came back home we started playing on the Tantra Chair with the clothes on. It felt wonderful from the start.
We had to get used to the new space for two people but we loved it immediately.
There really is an amazing feeling of closeness when we are sitting face to face. Our abdomen area can come as close to each other as we like without putting any strain to the legs of the one who has the legs underneath. This is because of the wave shape that allows the person who has the legs on top to be sitting slightly higher than the other. It is absolutely brilliant. We could stay together in this position for hours as there is no stress to any part of the body. The feet are comfortably resting on the ground, providing support. The arms are completely free and never needed to provide support or balance. Since the body of our partner is very accessible (unlike on a bed where about 180 degrees of the body is hidden by the bed), it really invites to touch, caresses, strokes, massage.
This face to face position is actually very relaxing. We started talking and laughing and I realized that it was a great place for casual sharings like talking, looking at each other, hugging, …
In our daily life, what are the spaces where we can have these deep talkings that require to be really connected and present to each other ? These talks during which important decisions are made about our shared life, the children and so forth. Or these talks that contribute to create a sense of really being a team and that build up trust and love. Some people have them at the restaurant, with a table between them. Some people have them in the car, not even facing each other. Some people have them in a couch, again not really able to face each other or only very partially. Some people have them in a bed, choosing the lying down position and thus reducing their level of consciousness and presence. Maybe some people will take two chairs and put them in front of each other without table, or simply sit on the floor in front of each other. This sounds like the best solution as it is face to face, straight position, without obstacle in between the two persons. Yet, there is absolutely no freedom of movement and almost no physical connection in this set up. It is only upon trying the Tantra Chair that all this came to my mind. The feeling of closeness, connectedness and comfort that this design automatically creates for two people just does not compare with any set up used by modern man. Even without words, sitting together on the Tantra Chair creates this connection between the two persons. It will sound stupid but it feels a bit like finding each other together for the first time.
After this clothes-on try, we were really looking forward to try it without clothes. I will talk about it in my next post.
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